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PopDaddy is available from Amazon.
How do two fabulous, thirtysomething gay men end up adopting a baby? Three magic words: Honey, I'm pregnant!
PopDaddy is the true story of boy meets boy meets baby. Ken and Jeffrey's lives take a sudden and unexpected turn when their best friend announces she's pregnant. Ken wants a baby too. What follows is a hilarious and heartwarming story of two gay men in their thirties who decide to pursue an international adoption from Guatemala. The story is told from Jeffrey's perspective and begins with the big announcement and ends with their son's first birthday party. In between the boys have to work hard to overcome bad luck, bad karma and Jeffrey's fat childhood to get to their storybook ending.
A LOOK AT HOW I'M DOING
DAILY WORD GOAL
Most of the book takes place from the fall of 2,000 until the spring of 2002. There are a couple of time shifts that bookend the narrative. The Prologue is set in 2008, just after we have relocated (hopefully for the last time) to Decatur, and the Epilogue takes place on the eve of our wedding in 2011.
The action kicks of with a late-night nosebleed that introduces the reader to our family and gives them some insight into how we are not so different than any other family.
If you can't bring the baby to his family you take his family to the baby. How many trips will we make before we finally get to bring him home with us?
Lots of setbacks, red tape, delays and bad luck keep Jackson in Guatemala while Ken and I are in Dallas.
His extended family is ready to get their hands on Jackson, but is he ready to meet this nutty crew? Is anyone ever?
In these chapters Ken and I discover that a friend is pregnant and decide that we want child of our own.
Jackson has his passport and is ready to come home to Dallas. Is it smooth sailing from here on out?
The book closes with Ken and I finally getting a chance to say our "I dos" surrounded by friends and family in New York.
THE WAITING GAME
MEET THE FAMILY
GET TO KNOW THE FACES BEHIND THE CHARACTERS OF POPDADDY. WHENEVER I NEED A LITTLE INSPIRATION I LOOK THROUGH MY PHOTOS AND REMIND MYSELF OF HOW LUCKY I AM.
These are the Characters
Our family wouldn't exist without all of the love and support we received before during and after we brought Jackson home. You can use the buttons below to get to know some of the people who inspired PopDaddy.
SWEET SWEET BABY MINE
MAINE AND SANDALS
Jackson was all about Sesame Street. He had a stuffed animal for the whole cast.
THAT ONE TIME IN MAINE
There is so much happening here. The shoes, my ears, Mom's hair, Fara's sunglasses. What a great vacation.
Fara, Mom and Jeffrey
Hanging out by Mission Lake with Mom and Jackson. I wanted to capture the magic of Mom's hat but Jackson couldn't stop giggling.
Jackson and Mom
ME AND MY GUY
This is a classic Ken move. He wraps me up until I am completely unable to move.
Jeffrey and Ken
Patsy kept hoping that Jackson was going to go home. Poor thing wasn't use to playing second fiddle to anyone.
Patsy and Jackson
I love this one. Jackson look so sweet and Ken looks so handsome.
Ken and Jackson
HITTING THE 40S HARD
I love this picture from Ken and me on our Alaskan cruise. Isn't he handsome?
Ken and Jeffrey
This was the coolest couch, but unfortunately this fabric was not meant for outside.
WHAT IS THIS?
I LOVE PAPA
COME ON GET HAPPY
BEST FRIENDS FROM BIRTH
Marti getting pregnant with Mason sparked our interest in adoption. Nine months later Mason had his very own playmate.
Jackson and Mason
This was the best Halloween costume ever. If I could find this is in adult size I would feature it this year.
Evan was born six months after Jackson. Between him and Mason he has a couple of buddies for life.
Jackson and Evan
The whole crew showed up in Dallas for Jackson's first birthday party.
Russell, Sydney, Betty, Fara, Jackson, Jeffrey, Alex and Nick
Everyone showed up in Dallas to celebrate Jackson's first birthday.
Kenny, Catelyn, Joyce, Mike, Jackson, Jennifer, Ken, Ethan, Jeffrey and James
THERE'S A FROG IN MY BATH
Baths are more fun with frogs. Jackson used to play in his tub until the water got cold.
This is a scan from a picture taken of Ken and me in our apartment on the upper west side of New York. We were in our mid to late twenties in this picture.
Ken and Jeffrey
Ken and his Mom flew to Guatemala in January of 2002 to say hello to Jackson face to face.
Ken and Jackson
THE CREW II
HANGING IN MEXICO
Nick and Jackson hanging out in Cancun. We loved this place so much that Fara and Josh went back a couple of months later. Alone. Meow.
Jackson and Nick
Jackson and his friends are hanging out in the town square in Decatur.
David, Jackson, Sam and Vinnie
I went away on a business trip and when I got back we had a dog. This was the beginning of the pet thing.
Jackson and Freckles
We stumbled upon a dog rescue in the town square on Sunday and came home with Blue.
Blue and Jackson
CRUISING WITH THE MANFORDS
Hanging out with Ken's parents on the cruise ship. Jackson hoped we would see a bear and when we didn't we had to buy him one.
Jackson, Jeffrey, Joyce, Ken and Kenny.
LOVE THIS FAMILY
The Phillips family flew up to New York to celebrate our wedding with us. What a fantastic week.
Greg, Marti and Mason
A fun weekend trip to Crane Creek Vineyards. I don't think Jackson has smiled this big since he became a teenager.
Jackson is standing on our front porch in Roswell, looking as cute as a button.
LOVE THESE GUYS
NEW YORK STATE OF MIND
Jackson loves to visit New York. He says he wants to go to school there when he gets older. I'm good with that, as long as I don't have to pay for it.
Ken, Jeffrey and Jackson
FALL FESTIVAL 2014
The Fall Festival at John Campbell got rained out this year, but we can't complain. The weather last year was spectacular and we managed to coax Raina into hanging out with us for the day.
Raina and Jackson
COOKING WITH MARTI
We love having guest at our place up in the mountains, especially when it the amazing Phillips family.
Greg, Ken, Marti, Jeffrey, Jackson and Mason
FIFTY AND FABULOUS
If you have to turn 50, this is definitely the way to do it. Ken surprised me with a party and a margarita machine on my birthday. My sister likely had a vote in there somewhere.
Fara and Jeffrey
SWIM MEET 2014
Jackson started swimming year round in the fall of 2014. He's made so much progress in a year that it's amazing.
Jackson and his teammates
FREEZING IN FLORIDA
We headed South to 30A for Jackson's winter break in February with Ken's parents. Turns out it can be pretty damn cold in Florida in February.
JULY 4TH 2015
What's the annual fourth of July bash without a little rain? Thank goodness it didn't rain out Hot Summer Nights.
Trey, Sydney and Jeffrey
FIRES CREEK OCTOBER 2015
After months of near misses we finally got Scott, Rodney, Lucas and Baby C up to the mountains for a long weekend. Ken and I are working on a plan to get those guys to move to Atlanta.
Jackson and Lucas
WINTER BREAK 2015
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